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When No Means Yes!

by Amber De La Garza

SaynoNo. Nah. Nope. Uh-uh. Nay. Fat chance. (Thumbs down).

No matter how you say it, saying no to others can be hard but it’s an important part of maximizing your productivity. Like many people, you may fear saying no makes you look selfish, rude, or lazy but saying yes to everything will leave you with too much to do and distract you from what’s important. Rachelle Isip said it best. “When you say NO to someone else's agenda, you are in fact saying an overwhelming YES to your own plans and activities.”

If you are currently a yes person, you might be upset others are constantly dictating how you spend your time and bogging you down with meetings, events, interruptions, and busy work. Maybe you can’t find time to do what matters most because you’re a slave to everyone else’s beck and call. The truth is no one is responsible for creating your schedule except you. If you acquiesce to every request of your time, you are at fault but you can change your course! You just need to incorporate the word no into your vocabulary and use it often.

Make The Choice

Choosing to say yes to success often means having to say no to other activities. Warren Buffett said, “The difference between successful people and unsuccessful people, is that really successful people say no to almost everything.” Filter every opportunity through your definition of success so you can invest your time on your highest value activities. Think of saying no as saying a reaffirming yes to accomplishing your own goals.

Admitting to others you are not able to do everything can be difficult. I have observed my husband having no issue with saying no, even without explanation. That is the part I have the most difficultly with and I’m sure many of you do too. Without fail, I always feel the need to explain myself and justify why I am saying no. My husband recently asked, “Does explaining make you feel better or them?” After pondering his question for a moment, I realized it probably just makes me feel better because no matter what, they are only hearing that I said no.

Just Say No!

When it’s time to deliver the message, there are many ways you can politely and effectively get your point across. The simplest way is to just get it out with “No,” or “Sorry, I can’t,” because it’s important to be decisive when saying no. If you won’t be able to do whatever is being requested, don’t offer leeway by saying “I can’t today but another time,” or “Well, I’m busy right now but maybe later,” unless that is what you really mean. You would just be opening yourself up to having to say no again in the future. It’s best to be cordial and direct. You’ll be more respected for it at the end of the day.

I recently realized the way in which one says no is not as important as just saying it. If you don’t say no often enough to others’ requests of your time, find your voice and a tone you are comfortable with and start saying no today! If you need help, there are plenty of great resources available by authors who share methods on how to say no. Check them out and see which method will work for you.

No one can be everything to everyone. Saying yes when you want to say no adds long-term stress to your already overworked body and brain. Saying no in any situation might bring on immediate stress but it will only last a short time. You will also still reign over your schedule and feel more in control of your life after saying it.

Learning to say no to activities that don’t add value to your life or serve your goal of being successful can be done but it takes commitment. Find a comfortable way to deliver the message and stick to it. It will become easier and you will find your calendar opening up to all sorts of free time to productively invest your best time into your best activities that you never knew you had!

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About the Contributor

Delagarza CIRCLEAmber De La Garza is The Productivity Specialist! Amber is a sought-after coachtrainerspeakerwriter, and host of the Productivity Straight Talk podcast. She helps real estate professionals take consistent, massive, focused action in your business. Amber equips you with the specific techniques you need to master your mindset, expand your skill set, and build business systems so you can reduce your stress, increase your production, dominate the market, and make more time for what matters most. Amber also passionately shares her message with entrepreneurs all over the world as a contributor for The Huffington Post, Women's Council Magazine, Choices Magazine, and Las Vegas Agent Magazine.


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